Isimo esibolile semiphakathi yethu eku-inthanethi neyenyama kanye nokwesaba ukuthi ikusasa lisiphatheleni lapho sibhekene nezinguquko zesimo sezulu esizibonayo.
namuhla ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu empilweni yethu yengqondo.Emhlabeni jikelele, ohulumeni bayaqhubeka nokuxhasa amaphrojekthi kaphethiloli wezinsalela ezimbiwa phansi naphezu kokuthi
imiphumela yokuguquguquka kwesimo sezulu.
Abantu emhlabeni wonke sebevele baxoshwa emakhaya ngenxa yezinhlekelele ezihlobene nesimo sezulu futhi lokhu kushiya sonke sikhathazekile;okwe
ngokwethu kodwa ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuphepha kanye nenhlalakahle yabanye.
Abazali nabo bangaphansi kwengcindezi eyengeziwe yokufundisa izingane zabo ukuthi zingaba kanjani izakhamuzi eziqaphelayo nokunakekela imvelo.Lokhu kungaphezu kokukhathazeka ngakho
ukukhathazeka kwentsha nokucindezeleka.
Kuhambisana neqiniso lokuthi namuhla, isibalo sabantu abesaba ukwehluleka, ikakhulukazi emisebenzini abayikhethile, siphezulu kunangaphambili;akunzima ukubona lokho okuqinisekile
kufanele kuthathwe izinyathelo zokunciphisa umuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba lapho izikhathi ziba nzima.Kulapho-ke kungena khona ukusimama kwengqondo.
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Ukuqina ngokomqondo kuzokusiza ukuthi ubhekane nezinkinga zakho ngomoya ophansi futhi ululame ngokushesha kunoma yimaphi amaqhubu emgwaqeni wakho.Ukuthi lezi zihibe
okuncane (njengokuthola inhlawulo yokupaka noma ukungawutholi lowo msebenzi obuwufuna) noma okuyinhlekelele ngezinga elikhulu (iziphepho noma ukuhlasela kwamaphekula), nazi ezinye izindlela ezilula
ungaqinisa ukuqina kwakho kwengqondo ukuze ubhekane kangcono nezimo ezinzima:
1. Qonda ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula yonke into.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu ongaqinisa ngazo ukuzimisela kwakho ngokwengqondo iwukuba ngcono ekukhetheni izimpi zakho.Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwengqondo-yokuziphatha uDonald
URobertson, ogxile ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwefilosofi, ingqondo kanye nokuzithuthukisa, encwadini yakhe ethi Stoicsm and the Art of Happiness, uyagcizelela.
ukuthi kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi yini ongakwazi ukuyilawula nokuthi yini ongakwazi ukuyenza, njengoba into kuphela olawula phezu kwayo imicabango yakho yamabomu.Ezomhlaba wonke
izinkinga akuzona ezakho ukuzixazulula futhi ngokungagwegwesi, awukwazi ukuzilawula zonke noma ngabe ubufuna.Uma ukwazi ukwenza umehluko phakathi kwezinto ongakwazi
ukulawula nezinto ongakwazi ukuzenza, ungaqinisekisa ukuthi amandla akho kanye namandla akho akumoshi ekugcineni.
Gxila kulokho ongakwazi ukukulawula, hhayi lokho ongakwazi ukukwenza.
Iqiniso elilula okufanele ulikhumbule ukuthi empilweni, uzobhekana nezikhathi ezinzima, ayikho indlela ezungeze lokho.Ungase ube nobusuku obumbalwa lapho ungakwazi khona
ukulala ngenxa ye-stressor eyodwa noma enye.Iqhinga lapha ukuthi ungalahlekelwa ubuthongo obuningi ngenxa yezinto ongeke ukwazi ukuzixazulula.Into eyodwa ongayilawula njalo
impendulo yakho ezenzakalweni empilweni yakho futhi lokho kulungile.
Ngakho lapho uzithola ukhathazeka ngezinto eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa, yima ucabange ngendima yakho mayelana nesixazululo.Ngisho nalapho ungakwazi ukunikeza okuhlala njalo
izixazululo ngoba unamandla amancane-isho endabeni yemililo yase-Amazon, i-Brexit kanye nezingxabano zaseSyria- kuvame ukuba nenkinga ongayixazulula
impilo yakho ukuze wenze izinto zibe ngcono, ngisho noma ungakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezinkulu zomhlaba jikelele.Isibonelo, gxila ezintweni ongazilawula njenge
ukusebenzisa isimiso sokufaneleka sansuku zonke uma ufuna ukwehlisa isisindo, noma ukupakisha ikhithi yakho yemfucuza enguziro uma ufuna ukugwema ukusebenzisa ipulasitiki eyodwa.
2. Yenza ukubonga kube yinto eza kuqala.
Ukubonga kuwumuzwa womuntu onamandla futhi kubhekisela esimweni sokubonga.Kuye kwachazwa njengokwazisa okujulile ngothile (noma okuthile) lokho
ikhiqiza i-positivity ehlala isikhathi eside.
Ukuzijwayeza ukubonga kungenye yezinto ezinkulu kakhulu ongayenzela impilo yakho yengqondo, ngoba kuzokusiza ugcine izinto zisesimweni, ngisho nangesikhathi esiningi.
izikhathi eziyinselele.Uma uzijwayeza ukubonga njalo, uzothola imizwa eyakhayo eyengeziwe, uzizwe uphila kakhudlwana, ulale kangcono, futhi uveze okwengeziwe
uzwelo kwabanye.Uzokwazi kangcono futhi ukuvimba imizwa engemihle njengomona, noma ukucasuka.Ukubonga kuboniswe njenge-psychotherapeutic ku
lolu cwaningo oludumile lwaseYale lukaRobert A. Emmons noRobin Stern ngenxa yomphumela walo wokuphulukisa engqondweni yomuntu.
Ngakho-ke lapho uzwa sengathi isisindo somhlaba siphezu kwamahlombe akho zinike isikhathi futhi ucabange ngalokho okubongayo.Awudingi ukugodla lokhu
kuphela ngezikhathi ezibalulekile.Ungakhombisa ukubonga ngokukhushulwa emsebenzini, kodwa futhi ungabonga nje ngokuba nophahla phezu kwekhanda lakho noma ukudla okudlayo.
kwaba nesidlo sasemini.
3. Yenza into ongayazi kahle.
Kukhona yonke imboni yokuzithuthukisa laphaya ekutshela ukuthi ugxile kulokho okwaziyo kahle futhi udlulisele konke okunye komunye umuntu.Njengojenene
Isimiso, le ndlela inezinzuzo eziningi, enye yazo ukuthi maningi amathuba okuthi sijabule futhi senze kangcono kakhulu uma sigxila kuphela
esikwenza kahle kakhulu.Kodwa ukugxila kuphela emandleni akho ngeke kusize kangako uma kuziwa ekuqiniseni ukuzimisela kwakho ngokwengqondo.Lolu cwaningo locwaningo lokuthi kungaba kanjani
umthombo wokugqugquzela nokusebenza, isibonelo, ubonisa ukuthi uma abantu beqaphela ukukhathazeka abakuzwayo mayelana nenselelo entsha noma umgomo, bayanda
okungenzeka baphikelele emsebenzini wabo, futhi bathole ukwaneliseka okukhulu phakathi nomsebenzi.
Uma kubekwe ngendlela ehlukile, awudingi ukuthi uqinise ngokwengqondo ukuze wenze umsebenzi othile uma usuwenza kahle.Lapho amandla akho eqiniso evivinywa kakhulu kusezimweni
ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokunethezeka;ngakho ukuphuma ngaphandle kwalowo mbuthano njalo ngemva kwesikhashana kuzokwenza okuhle ekuqineni kwengqondo yakho.Encwadini yakheFinyelelaUProfesa we
ukuziphatha kwenhlangano eBrandeis University's International Business School kanye nochwepheshe bokuziphatha emhlabeni webhizinisi,Andy Molinskykuchaza lokho
ngokuphumela ngaphandle kwezindawo zethu zokunethezeka, siyakwazi ukuthatha amashansi, sivule amathuba amaningi amasha futhi sithole izinto ngathi thina ebesingeke sibe nazo.
kutholwe ngenye indlela.
Lesi sinyathelo singaba lula njengokukhuluma nomuntu ongenakhaya noma sesabise njengokuvolontiya njengesikhulumi kumashi elandelayo yesimo sezulu endaweni yangakini, naphezu kwalokho.
imvelo yakho enamahloni.Okubaluleke kakhulu lapha ukuthi uma uke ugxile ezintweni ongekho kahle kuzo, uzokubona ukushiyeka kwakho kucace kakhudlwana ukuze
ungenza izinguquko ezidingekayo emcabangweni wakho futhi usebenze ekweluleni amakhono akho.Konke lokhu kuzoqinisa amandla akho engqondo kakhulu
4. Zilolonge umzimba nsuku zonke.
Umqondo, njengomzimba, udinga ukuvivinya ingqondo njalo ukuze uyigcine inengqondo nangokomzwelo.Ukuqina kwengqondo kufana nomsipha, udinga ukusetshenzwa
khula futhi uthuthuke futhi indlela esheshayo yokufika lapho iwukuprakthiza.Manje akungabazeki ukuthi izimo ezimbi kakhulu esibhekana nazo zivivinya isibindi nengqondo yethu
xazulula kodwa akumele uvumele izinto zedlulele.
Naka izimo zakho zansuku zonke futhi uzijwayeze ukuqinisa amandla akho engqondo ngazo.Kuyinqubo ebandakanya ukuhlonza isimo leso
kuholela ekucindezelekeni kwengqondo noma ekukhathazekeni, kuhlukanise imicabango nemizwa eholela kulokhuimizwa engemihle nokusebenzisa imicabango enempilo ukuze ushintshe
ukucabanga okusontekile okuvame ukuba ngemuva kwalezi zimo.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: May-08-2021