Isimo esiwohlokayo semiphakathi yethu eku-inthanethi nengokwenyama kanye nokwesaba ukuthi ikusasa liphetheni naphezu kwezinguquko zesimo sezulu ezinganqandeki esizibonayo
namuhla ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu empilweni yethu yengqondo. Emhlabeni jikelele, ohulumeni bayaqhubeka nokuxhasa amaphrojekthi kaphethiloli naphezu kokuthi
imiphumela yokushintsha kwesimo sezulu.
Abantu emhlabeni wonke sebevele baphoqelekile ukuphuma emakhaya abo ngenxa yezinhlekelele ezihlobene nesimo sezulu futhi lokhu kusenza sonke sizizwe sikhathazekile;
thina kodwa ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuphepha kanye nenhlalakahle yabanye.
Abazali nabo bangaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu yokufundisa izingane zabo ukuthi zingaba kanjani izakhamuzi eziqaphelayo futhi zinakekele imvelo. Lokhu kungaphezu kokukhathazeka ngokuthi
ukukhathazeka kwentsha kanye nokucindezeleka.
Kanye neqiniso lokuthi namuhla, inani labantu abesaba ukwehluleka, ikakhulukazi emisebenzini abayikhethile, liphezulu kunanini ngaphambili; akunzima ukubona ukuthi lokho kuqinisekile
Kumelwe kuthathwe izinyathelo zokunciphisa umuzwa wokuphelelwa yithemba lapho izikhathi ziba nzima. Yilapho ukuqina kwengqondo kungena khona.
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Ukuqina kwengqondo kuzokusiza ukuthi ubhekane nezinkinga zakho ngokuthula futhi ululame kunoma yiziphi izithiyo endleleni yakho ngokushesha okukhulu.
okuncane (njengokuthola inhlawulo yokupaka noma ukungawutholi lowo msebenzi obuwufuna) noma okubi kakhulu (iziphepho noma ukuhlasela kwamaphekula), nazi ezinye izindlela ezilula
ungaqinisa ukuqina kwengqondo yakho ukuze ubhekane kangcono nezimo ezinzima:
1. Qonda ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula yonke into.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu ongaqinisa ngazo ukuzimisela kwakho kwengqondo ukuba ngcono ekukhetheni izimpi zakho. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo nowengqondo uDonald
URobertson, ogxile ebudlelwaneni obuphakathi kwefilosofi, isayensi yezengqondo kanye nokuzithuthukisa, encwadini yakhe ethi Stoicsm and the Art of Happiness, ugcizelela ukuthi
ukuthi kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi yini ongayilawula nokuthi yini ongenakuyilawula, njengoba okuwukuphela kwento onayo ngempela ukulawula imicabango yakho ehlosiwe. Konke okusemhlabeni
izinkinga akuzona ezakho ukuzixazulula futhi empeleni, awukwazi ukuzilawula zonke noma ngabe ubufuna. Uma ukwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezinto ongakwazi ukuzenza
Uma ulawula izinto ongenakukwazi ukuzenza, ungaqinisekisa ukuthi amandla akho kanye namandla akho okuzimisela akuchithwa kulokhu kokugcina.
Gxila kulokho ongakwazi ukukulawula, hhayi kulokho ongakwazi.
Iqiniso elilula okufanele ulikhumbule ukuthi empilweni, uzobhekana nezikhathi ezinzima, ayikho indlela yokugwema lokho. Ungase ube nobusuku obumbalwa lapho ungakwazi khona.
ukulala ngenxa yesinye isicindezelo. Icebo lapha ukuthi ungalali kakhulu ngenxa yezinto ongakwazi ukuzixazulula. Into eyodwa ongakwazi ukuyilawula njalo
impendulo yakho ezenzakalweni empilweni yakho futhi lokho kulungile.
Ngakho-ke uma uzithola ukhathazeka ngezinto eziningi kakhulu ngesikhathi esisodwa, yima ucabange ngendima yakho maqondana nesisombululo. Ngisho nalapho ungakwazi ukunikeza khona okuhlala njalo
izixazululo ngoba awunalo ithonya elincane – ake sithi endabeni yemililo yase-Amazon, i-Brexit ngisho nengxabano yaseSiriya – ngokuvamile kunenkinga ongayixazulula kuyo
impilo yakho ukuze wenze izinto zibe ngcono kancane, noma ngabe awukwazi ukuxazulula ngqo izinkinga ezinkulu zomhlaba wonke. Isibonelo, gxila ezintweni ongazilawula njengokuthi
ukusebenzisa isimiso sokuzivocavoca nsuku zonke uma ufuna ukwehlisa isisindo, noma ukupakisha ikhithi yakho yokungalahli imfucuza uma ufuna ukugwema ipulasitiki esetshenziswa kanye kuphela.
2. Yenza ukubonga kube yinto eza kuqala.
Ukubonga kuyimizwa enamandla yomuntu futhi kubhekisela esimweni sokubonga. Kuye kwachazwa njengokwazisa okujulile ngomuntu (noma into ethile)
kuveza ubuhle obuhlala isikhathi eside.
Ukuzijwayeza ukubonga kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenzela impilo yakho yengqondo, ngoba kuzokusiza ukuthi ugcine izinto zisesimweni esihle, ngisho nangesikhathi esinzima kakhulu.
izikhathi ezinzima. Uma uzijwayeza ukubonga njalo, uzoba nemizwa emihle kakhulu, uzizwe uphila kakhudlwana, ulale kangcono, futhi uveze kakhudlwana
uzwela kwabanye. Uzokwazi futhi ukuvimba imizwa emibi njengomona, noma inzondo. Ukubonga kwabonakala kwelapha ngokwengqondo
lolu cwaningo oludumile lwaseYale olubhalwe nguRobert A. Emmons noRobin Stern ngenxa yomphumela walo wokuphulukisa engqondweni yomuntu.
Ngakho-ke uma uzizwa sengathi umthwalo womhlaba usemahlombe akho zinike isikhathi uzindle ngalokho okubongayo. Akudingeki ukuthi ugodle lokhu
kuphela ngezikhathi ezibalulekile. Ungabonga ngokukhushulwa emsebenzini, kodwa futhi ungabonga ngokuhlala uphahleni noma ukudla okudlile.
ngidle isidlo sasemini.
3. Yenza into ongeyinhle kuyo.
Kukhona imboni yokuzithuthukisa ekutshela ukuthi ugxile kulokho okwaziyo ukukwenza kahle bese udlulisela konke okunye komunye umuntu. Njengomuntu ojwayelekile
Ngokwesimiso, le ndlela inezinzuzo eziningi, enye yazo ukuthi kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi sijabule futhi senze kangcono kakhulu uma sigxila kuphela ku-
lokho esikwenza kahle kakhulu. Kodwa ukugxila emandleni akho kuphela ngeke kusize kakhulu uma kuziwa ekuqiniseni ukuzimisela kwakho kwengqondo. Lolu cwaningo mayelana nokuthi lungenziwa kanjani
umthombo wesisusa kanye nokusebenza, isibonelo, ubonisa ukuthi uma abantu beqaphela ukukhathazeka abakuzwayo mayelana nenselele noma umgomo omusha, bazizwa bekhululekile kakhulu
cishe bazoqhubeka nomsebenzi wabo, futhi bathole ukwaneliseka okukhulu ngesikhathi somsebenzi.
Uma sibeka ngenye indlela, ngokuvamile awudingi ukuzikhandla ngokwengqondo emsebenzini uma usuvele ukwazile ukuwufeza. Lapho amandla akho eqiniso evivinywa khona kakhulu kusezimweni.
ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokunethezeka; ngakho ukuphuma ngaphandle kwaleyo mbuthano ngezikhathi ezithile kuzokwenza kube kuhle ekuqineni kwengqondo yakho. Encwadini yakheFinyelelaUprofesa we
ukuziphatha kwenhlangano eBrandeis University's International Business School kanye nochwepheshe kwezokuziphatha ezweni lebhizinisi,U-Andy Molinskyichaza lokho
Ngokuphuma ezindaweni zethu zokunethezeka, siyakwazi ukuthatha amathuba, sivule amathuba amaningi amasha futhi sithole izinto ngathi esingeke sibe nazo.
kutholakale ngenye indlela.
Lesi sinyathelo singaba lula njengokukhuluma nomuntu ongenamakhaya noma ukwesabeka njengokuzithandela njengesikhulumi emcimbini olandelayo wesimo sezulu endaweni yakini, naphezu kokuthi
imvelo yakho yokuba namahloni. Into ebaluleke kakhulu lapha ukuthi uma ngezinye izikhathi uhileleka ezintweni ongaziqondi kahle, uzobona amaphutha akho ngokucacile ukuze
ungenza izinguquko ezidingekayo endleleni yakho yokucabanga futhi usebenzele ukwandisa amakhono akho. Konke lokhu kuzoqinisa kakhulu amandla akho engqondo
4. Zijwayeze ukuzivocavoca kwengqondo nsuku zonke.
Ingqondo, njengomzimba, idinga ukuvivinya ingqondo njalo ukuze ihlale iphilile engqondweni nangokomzwelo. Ukuqina kwengqondo kufana nomsipha, kudinga ukusetshenzwa ukuze
khula futhi uthuthuke futhi indlela esheshayo yokufika lapho iwukuzijwayeza. Manje akungabazeki ukuthi izimo ezimbi kakhulu esibhekene nazo zivivinya isibindi sethu nengqondo yethu
zimisele kodwa akudingeki uvumele izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu.
Naka izimo zakho zansuku zonke bese uzijwayeza ukuqinisa amandla akho engqondo ngazo.Kuyinqubo ehilela ukuhlonza isimo
kuholela ekucindezelekeni kwengqondo noma ekukhathazekeni, ukuhlukanisa imicabango nemizwa eholela kulokhuimizwa emibi nokusebenzisa imicabango enempilo ukushintsha
ukucabanga okuphambene okuvame ukuba ngemuva kwalezi zimo zengqondo.
Isikhathi sokuthunyelwe: Meyi-08-2021
